One of my favorite blogs is called Stuff That Needs to Be Said, by John Pavlovitz. (https://www.johnpavlovitz.com) I want to share his latest post with you, in light of Thursday’s drama regarding Dr. Christine Blasey Ford and Brett Kavanaugh:
Warning: The following may be triggering for survivors of abuse.)
To Young Men and Women of America,
Have you heard us?
Is our message getting through?
We’ve been talking to you this week, trying to make sure you understand who we are, what kind of America we’re building here, the future nation we’re dreaming of.
We think we’ve been clear and compelling in our declarations, and we’ve done our best not to leave any ambiguity as to our hearts or our plans or our intentions.
We think our tirades and our condescension and our insults and our sneering tantrums have spoken eloquently about us and about you.
We hope Lindsey and Donald and Chuck and Orrin and Mitch and Brett and Susan have made a strong case—but if not, let us be more explicit in these moments, so there can be no confusion. After all, November is coming and we want you to be certain…
To the Young Men of America,
You can do whatever you want to young women.
You can disregard their humanity,
force yourself on them physically,
ignore their pleas to stop,
proceed without consent,
indulge your urges,
treat them as property,
and silence, slander, and intimidate them after the fact.
You can do this as often as you like, to as many young girls as opportunity and your desires allow.
We will have your back (providing you are white, wealthy, and one day vote Republican.)
We will marshal our every resource of finance and position and privilege in protecting and defending you.
You will receive sanctuary in our midst, regardless of the horrors you are responsible for or the recklessness and brazenness of your conduct.
We will help you in any way we can, to malign your accuser’s character, destroy their credibility, and embarrass them further.
We will blame alcohol or her memory or her behavior in the past.
We will talk about your viciousness in ways designed to make it seem commonplace.
We will paint you in as flattering a portrait as we can, so that you actually come out looking like the victim, so that the accusations are actually a help.
We will have no loyalty to the truth or to goodness or decency, if such things pose a threat to either your narrative or our prosperity.
We’ll use the invaluable resource of the Evangelical Church to even make supporting you, part of God’s will.
If no other option is available, we will simply ignore what you’ve done. (After all we installed a President that way.)
We will never allow the violence you make young women endure, to prevent you from having opportunity and advancement and success.
We can promise you that.
And to Young Women of America,
You don’t matter.
Not your trauma or your pain,
not the innocence you lose,
not the damage you sustain,
not the scars you are marked by,
not the nightmares you are haunted by,
not the peace you no longer find,
not the confidence that leaves you,
not the fear that is ever present,
not the shame that you cannot shake,
not the silence you are imprisoned by.
We simply do not see you as valuable—at least not as valuable as the status quo we’re protecting or the legislation we’re coveting or the religion we’re perpetuating or the votes we’re needing.
You are the acceptable collateral damage of our misogyny and entitlement.
Your body, your emotional health, and your sense of safety—simply aren’t worth more than a Supreme Court seat.
Of course, should a pregnancy somehow be created by your violation, we will vigorously demand that you be forced to carry it, even if it exacerbates your pain and magnifies your despair. After all, we urgently need to perpetuate the appearance that we are pro-life—just not your life.
We can imagine this is less than ideal for you, but we hope you understand that this is how it has always been, and we are counting on you to indulge us one last time, and we appreciate your cooperation.
So, young men and women of America, we hope you see us with clarity.
We hope that in these days, we are exposing ourselves fully.
We hope you know who we are now.
We’ll see you in November.
The Republican Party of 2018
If you are a survivor and you need help, or if you want to find out how you can be an advocate for survivors, here are some places to start:
National Sexual Assault Hotline
EROC (End Rape on Campus)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
INCITE (For Women, Gender Non-Conforming, and Trans people of Color)
On Eagle’s Wings Ministries
Human Rights Campaign (LGBTQ)
NCLR Nation Center for Lesbian Rights
Safe Helpline (Victim support for members of Military)