Okay, kids, here’s a fun little experiment for you to do:
Look at some object in the distance. Focus on it. Then, close one eye, hold up your thumb and position it so that it blocks your view of that object.
Got it? Great! Now, without moving the thumb, close that eye and open the other one.
Holy smokes! What just happened??
The object didn’t move, the thumb didn’t move, everything stayed the same. Only now, that object is right out there in plain view. Cool!
Yeah, I know, it’s nothing you didn’t already know, what else ya got, this was lame, yada, yada, yada…
But, really, how much of your time did that just take up, a few seconds?
And it’s a good reminder of how different the same picture can appear when viewed from a different eye.
One of the toughest things in the world to change is…an attitude. Especially the longer you cling to it, and the more comfortable you get with it. To change the way you look at something is risky, but oftentimes necessary.
One of the symptoms of depression, which I’ve had for years, is the tendency to get easily irritated by everyone and everything. All the time. Little things can just drive you nuts.
I’m around certain people, on a regular basis, who say things and do things that aggravate me to no end. Sometimes, I dread even being around them, for that very reason; I know I’m gonna get annoyed. 😠
Which is sad, considering they’re family.
I realize, I need to look at them with a different eye. They simply are what they are. The picture will not change; my view has to. Instead of resenting their idiosyncrasies, I need to accept them, to embrace them. I need to remember, these are people I love, that I’m glad I have them in my life, that it’s important to cherish the time we spend together, as long as we have it.
Besides, I know I’m definitely no day at the beach, either.
So, to whom it may concern:
Just a reminder, I love you all dearly. I’m glad you’re here. I will work on getting annoyed by you less and appreciating you more, because you are family, and family is priceless.
I’ll try to be less of a pain, too. Thanks for tolerating me, in the meantime.
Now, to the rest of you:
If you find yourself around some family members over the holidays who stir up the same emotions, try your best at looking through a different eye at them. I know, it’ll be tough. Remember, they didn’t get to pick you, either. Family is, or at least, should be, a refuge in the turbulent storms of life. We need each other, now more than ever.
Then maybe, we can summon up the courage to train that different eye on the rest of the world, and see something we never did before.
Who knows what can happen, then?
Oh, yeah…you can put your thumb down, now. 😏